How to invite a stranger for a photoshoot

I saw her while walking to one of the hotspots in Firenze and totally loved the outfit she was wearing. I had the courage to walk up and snap this beautiful picture.

If you follow any of my channels then you know I love travelling and taking pictures of beautiful people. One challenge I face while abroad is that I usually don’t have direct access to my network of models, so I often have to rely on strangers I meet wherever I go.

In the beginning it was very difficult for me to approach them, as I was a little shy and scared sometimes, and I didn’t know what to say or do. But as my confidence grew, I figured out an easy and effective 4-step process that consistently allows me to invite any stranger I meet for a photoshoot.

So if you’re like me, and you’d like to learn what is the best and most successful way to approach a beautiful stranger anywhere, then make sure to continue reading.

And yes, you can also use this in your hometown!

Step 1: Be comfortable with yourself

Easy to write, a lot harder to accomplish. However this step is of crucial importance in successfully approaching strangers.

You see, when you talk to someone, a lot of your energy gets transmitted. If you are nervous, or you think it’s weird to talk to them, they will feel the same way. If you feel calm and relaxed, they will be more open to you.

So accept and embrace that it is a normal thing to do. It also helps to realise you are giving them something valuable (a stunning picture, a cool memory, the indirect compliment that you find them attractive/interesting to capture).

If you notice you still feel nervous, don’t be afraid to call it out. This often times helps a lot. ("Hey, I actually feel a bit nervous doing this, but I’m a photographer and I loved your look, so would you be interested in doing a quick photoshoot together?")

Step 2: Know that getting a “no” is a valid answer

Not everyone loves being in front of a camera or is feeling in the mood for having their picture taken at that moment, and that is perfectly fine. I’ve received a lot of no’s asking people out and that’s totally okay. Always stay polite and don’t let it affect your mood.

Step 3: Be clear about your goal

This lovely couple was taking pictures of each other in this stunning location. That’s always a good sign of people that would be open to a small free photoshoot.

Nothing is worse than not knowing why a random stranger started talking to you in a public space. People are not used to being approached in public, so make it very clear from the start why you’re talking to them.

I explain my goal usually within the first three sentences of talking to them.

My conversation usually starts like this:

(Do something to get their attention first, a little wave, saying hi, etc)

Me: Hey, do you speak English?

They: Yes! (in a perfect world at least)

Me: I’m a photographer from Belgium, and I make tiktoks/reels where I ask strangers on a mini photoshoot. I really loved your *style/look/whatever made me approach them*. Would you find it fun to be in one of them?

They: Hell yeah, I was born to do this! (Again, in a perfect world)

Step 4: Explain why you picked them

As you can see in the previous conversation, I mention why I approached them very early on. It gives them an extra reason to trust you and feel open to the invitation.

After they agreed, you can proceed to do your shoot and enjoy meeting, connecting and creating with all these wonderful new people in your life!

Extra tips:

Awareness:

Some people are easier to get a yes from, so be aware of the people around you:

- If people are already taking cute photo’s, the chances are high that they will be happy to pose for you.
- If people are walking really fast and focused to a place, chances might be lower.

Have your profile ready:

When you have a good profile, don’t be afraid to use it to your advantage. When you explain that you are a photographer, you can show your feed so they know you are legit. This often times helps them to beat their last doubts.

Network:

People you meet in person are often the most loyal followers, so do exchange contacts. It’s also the easiest way to send them the finished photos afterwards.

But most importantly: be kind, be playful and have fun together!

I lately started making tiktoks and reels of shooting strangers. You can see the full approach and shoot of this picture on my instagram!